[some] shrink instinctively from that earthquake saying of our Gospels, which declare that the Son of God came not with peace but with a sundering sword. The saying rings entirely true even considered as what it obviously is; the statement that any man who preaches real love is bound to beget hate.
— G.K. Chesterton, Orthodoxy, p. 129
“Real love” is both costly, and demanding–to both the recipient and the giver. Those who really love us will not acquiesce to either our self-deception, or being less than we can be. Christianity, noted Chesterton, “divided the crime from the criminal. The criminal we must forgive unto seventy times seven. The crime we must not forgive at all” (p. 91).
To make a crime or sin of no consequence–to forgive the evil instead of him who committed it–shows love for neither him or others.
One will, of course, be called “judgmental” and “intolerant” for such a view. But, we must not lose sight of the fact that those who make such declarations are committing the very crime against which they rail. To fail to be “tolerant”–that is, to decline to critique another’s choices–is the only secular sin that is inexcusable. The modern world’s tolerance is intolerant on this point.
But, if we worry about such things, we show that we care more about ourselves than those we are to love and serve. Boyd K. Packer noted: “When a man in a leadership position resists giving counsel or necessary correction, he is thinking of himself” (unpublished document, February 2008; cited in Boyd K. Packer, Mine Errand from the Lord (Salt Lake City, Utah: Deseret Book Co., 2008).